Some people will never see you the way you see yourself. They’ll misread your intentions, label your choices, or cast you as the “bad guy” in their story. And that’s okay. You can’t control their version of reality — only your own. 

Today, let’s explore what it means to stop carrying other people’s judgments and start choosing yourself instead.

Today in 15 seconds:

💬 Overheard in Therapy: When you hate being misjudged, but can’t fix it.
📝 Permission Slip Series: Let people think what they want to think.
🌌 Daily Cosmic Weather Report: Moon dims, Saturn steals the show.
💎 Crystal of the Day: Deep crimson-pink pulses with quiet truth.

When something really gets under your skin, it can feel huge in the moment. But take a breath and check in with yourself: Will this still matter a month from now? 

If the answer is no, you don’t have to keep holding it so tightly. You don’t have to force yourself to “get over it” either. But try loosening your grip—just enough to breathe easier. 

It’ll still feel hard in the moment—of course it will. That’s okay. You can let yourself feel it now, fully, without pretending it doesn’t sting. But remember, you already know this won’t matter forever. This is temporary. The sharp edges will dull. And when they do, you’ll be glad you didn’t carry it longer than you had to.

“They think I’m a bad person—but I’m not, and I just wish they knew that.”

​​There will always be someone who misunderstands you, misjudges your choices, or paints you as “the bad guy” in their story. And here’s the hard truth: you can’t rewrite their narrative. You can’t control how they interpret your words, your actions, or your energy.

Trying to change someone else’s perception is exhausting. It drains your energy and steals your peace. Instead, you have a radical alternative: choose yourself. Stand in your integrity, honor your boundaries, and let your actions align with what feels right for you—not what makes you “look good” to someone else.

This isn’t about being indifferent or careless. It’s about understanding that other people’s judgments are reflections of them, not definitions of you. You can’t fix someone else’s story, but you can protect your life, your energy, and your growth.

Let people tell their stories. Let them think what they will. You can’t rewrite their narrative—but you can live yours fully. Be the protagonist in your life, not a character in someone else’s. Choose yourself.

This Week: Permission to Be the “Bad Guy”

Sometimes, standing by your choices, setting boundaries, or saying no makes you the villain in someone else’s story. That’s okay. You don’t need to shrink, soften, or explain yourself just to make someone else comfortable. You don’t have to carry the weight of their assumptions, judgments, or disappointments.

Give yourself permission to choose you. To act in alignment with your truth, even if it ruffles feathers. Even if it makes you the “bad guy” in someone else’s narrative. Their story of you isn’t your responsibility. What matters is your story, your integrity, and your peace.

Let people think what they want. Let them be uncomfortable, confused, or frustrated. Your energy is not theirs to control. You can step back, release the need for their approval, and move through life on your own terms. Choosing yourself doesn’t make you unkind—it makes you whole.

Above and within, a gentle rhythm

Quick correction first: yesterday we said the Moon’s light was at 88%. In truth, she was at 92%—a little brighter than we gave her credit for. Today, she’s at 85% illumination, still in her Waning Gibbous phase.

This part of the cycle is a lesson in not needing to prove yourself. The Moon doesn’t explain why she’s dimming, or rush to keep her glow at its peak. She lets the light shift and trusts the cycle. People can think she’s fading if they want—she knows she’s still whole.

Tonight, Saturn takes center stage. Its largest moon, Titan, will slip behind the planet around 11:10 P.M. EDT, reemerging a few hours later before dawn. If you’ve got a telescope, it’s worth a peek—though even without one, Saturn shines steadily in Pisces, just over 30° high in the southeast. Several of Saturn’s smaller moons may also be visible, like Tethys, Dione, and Rhea, if your optics allow.

Elsewhere, you’ll find the Summer Triangle still holding its place in the sky: Vega, Altair, and Deneb. They’re not all equally close—Deneb is thousands of light-years farther away than Vega or Altair—but together they trace a familiar beacon across September nights. Despite its name, you’ll be able to trace this trio well into winter.

Cosmic takeaway: the Moon, Saturn, and the stars all remind us—there’s no need to explain or control how others see you. Keep moving through your cycles. Shine when you shine, fade when you fade. The right people will still look up.

Eudialyte isn’t the loudest crystal on the shelf, but its deep crimson-pink tones carry a steady pulse of truth. Known as the “stone of the heartland,” it bridges the Heart and Root Chakras—reminding you that love and survival don’t have to be in competition. It’s here to root your desires into reality, so your emotional needs aren’t an afterthought to simply “getting by.”

This stone’s energy is grounding without being heavy. It helps dissolve jealousy, resentment, and the exhausting need for outside approval. Instead, it strengthens the confidence to live in alignment with what your heart knows—even if others don’t understand it. Think of it as quiet armor: protective, but always guiding you back to your own center.

Reach for Eudialyte when:

Eudialyte has a reputation for revealing soul connections and life lessons, showing you why certain relationships came into your orbit and what they’re teaching you. But at its core, it’s about turning inward—helping you forgive, release old guilt, and recognize that you don’t need to be anyone’s “good guy” to be whole.

3-8 minutes to tune into what you’re calling in

Off the top of your head (3 mins): List the stories you think others are telling about you right now. 

Spill it (5-8 mins): For each story you listed, ask yourself: Does this story actually change how I live my life? If yes—what’s the impact? If no—what happens if you release it and move forward anyway?

Let it land, let it go, trust it’ll return when it matters.

Remember the times when someone’s opinion didn’t sway you.

It might have been a fleeting thought, a reaction you caught and let pass, or a choice you made even though you knew it might raise eyebrows. Take a moment to feel it: the small freedom in standing your ground, in letting your instincts guide you instead of someone else’s assumptions.

These are quiet victories we rarely celebrate—the moments you chose yourself, even in subtle ways. They’re proof that you don’t have to shrink, soften, or perform for approval. That ripple of self-trust? It grows, shaping how you show up tomorrow, the day after, and in ways you might not even notice.

Savor it and let it remind you: your inner compass is enough.

There are decisions you’ve made for yourself—not to fit in, not to please anyone, not to avoid judgment. Think of moments like:

Take a moment to honor how these choices—big or small—kept you aligned with yourself. Each time you trusted your own judgment, you reinforced that your life is yours to shape.

Even if no one else noticed, your commitment to your own path quietly strengthened your confidence, your clarity, and your sense of freedom.

If you can’t change their mind, why let it change you?

People will have opinions, judgments, and assumptions that are theirs alone. You can’t control them, you can’t reason them out, and you can’t make them see your perspective. So why hand over your peace, your confidence, or your sense of self to someone else’s story about you?

Sometimes, the bravest act is simply standing in your truth while letting their thoughts roll off you. Choosing yourself doesn’t mean you’re giving in—it means you care enough about you to stay grounded, even when the world around you is buzzing with noise.

The payoff? Less mental clutter, more clarity, and the quiet knowledge that your life is yours to live, not their opinions to manage.

Not everyone is going to like your choices. Not everyone will understand why you do what you do—or why you do it differently. And that’s okay.

Your work, your growth, your choices—they aren’t meant to fit into someone else’s comfort zone. The discomfort they feel is their own, not yours to carry. Every time you lean into what feels right for you, even if it makes you the “bad guy” in someone else’s story, you’re claiming your space, your voice, and your time.

So here’s your gentle reminder: you can’t, and don’t need to, please everyone. Keep moving. Keep choosing yourself. Progress, even small, steady steps, always matters more than universal approval.

P.S. We made this because most spiritual content made us feel like there was something wrong with us for being tired, messy, or not “high-vibe” enough. If this made you feel a little more human today, that's all we wanted.

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